This Valentine’s Day, Learn to Love YOU!
As a Certified Holistic Health Coach, I stand strong today dedicating my life to helping others learn how to love and take care of themselves first before loving anything else. I didn’t just come up with this overnight or determine that this would be my total passion and life path for myself, and no an apple didn’t fall out of the tree hit me on the head and say “boom, that’s it” (Although, looking back that would have been helpful..haha) I stumbled upon the journey myself and had no idea I was in it. Growing up as a first generation woman, I had rules and expectations that were set out for me, and I was also determined to have my own rules and expectations that I had set for myself…but always in the back of my mind, I felt guilty that I wasn’t getting to where I had hoped or that I was letting others down. For most of my 20s I felt like I wasn’t ever happy…didn’t know what it was that I actually wanted. I knew I had something to give, but just couldn’t figure it out completely. I found myself totally stressed all of the time, worried about everything and everyone, always in debt, constantly sick, was always looking for my ideal mate yet the wrong one always seemed to pop up. I had moved away from my family to pursue my Master’s Degree and start a life of my own (whatever that meant?!), and didn’t completely understand why I was in this cloud of confusion. I remember crying a lot, yet not understanding why? Why couldn’t I get out of this bubble of thoughts and make things happen for myself in a positive way.
It wasn’t until 2007 when I was sitting at my computer a midst trying to change my profile for an online dating site, that I asked myself an important question, “What’s most important to me, right now?” Today…not yesterday, tomorrow, or a month from now…just simply today. I had recalled a spiritual healer I had gone to see a few months back she had asked me that question…at the time, my answer was “have no clue!” I never had realized that once I started to focus on today, what was in front of me at that moment I had more power than I had ever thought. I answered my question that moment, “I said I wanted to be happy.” A second question then came up, “How do I get happy?” Well…that one took a bit longer to figure out, but that next moment, out of nowhere I opened up google and typed “Health, Wellness, and Leadership.” Those were the three words that came to me at that moment. The first thing that came up was “get certified as a holistic health coach”. Next day I called the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, found out about the program and enrolled for 2008, graduated in 2009. I didn’t realize that while I decided to randomly drive myself to NYC every other weekend for this certification and without having any clue about what this all meant for me in the long run, I went. I knew no one, but walked into Lincoln Center with 2000 other people who that first day decided to commit to better health, wellness, and ultimately a much happier life. That day, I made a commitment to myself that I would take a Vitamin “L” (LOVE) each day and give this a shot. I felt as though I was getting in my car without having any clue where it would take me…no lie. Who would have thought that through this journey I realized that I didn’t love myself enough, I didn’t have any confidence in myself, even though I was an extremely outgoing person, and all I needed to do was to look in front of me and focus on me first…I know it may sound selfish at first, but the kind of focus I’m talking about is loving your strengths, loving your weaknesses, and loving the fact that you have the power to drive your car and steer it in any direction that you wish. Scary for sure, but that’s only if you focus on the destination only. We are always in such a rush to get there. What’s more important is the time you spend investing in yourself and truly you will find what transpires. Once I started doing this each day, things started turning around for me…no joke. I finally realized why I was getting sick so much and started changing my eating habits, exercise and opened up to natural healing therapies. I started using daily affirmations to help me love myself more, and I had even seen a difference in my full time job. I started adding in things that mattered and phrases that would bother me, I embraced. I never thought about removing things, instead I thought about what can I add to my life that will help crowd out the unwanted stuff. Finally, I began to see that I had a gift and something to share with others…that aha moment finally came to me. I surrounded myself with other coaches that focused on what I needed guidance on and helped me address my fears through more love for myself, and I slowly then began to help others begin to take Vitamin “L” as well. I had no idea how powerful having a coach to help me along would be in my life. Fast forward to 2014, I did end up finding my soul mate, started a family, and have now dedicated myself to help others get out of their cloud, the rut, and remove that feeling in the gut! Whether you are single, in a relationship, want a better career, more money, more time, a skinnier waistline, you name it this Valentine’s Day, I want you to remember these 5 things:
- Give yourself a little Vitamin “L” (Love each day). We all need love in our lives, but if we always expect it from others then we are limiting ourselves from our true potential.
- Focus on today…today will allow you to be in the present moment and will ultimately lead you to tomorrow’s today.
- Remind yourself each day that “you rock” and that your rock…is YOU!
- Wherever you are right now, today, is where you are meant to be.
- Ask yourself 2 questions, “What’s most important to you?” and “What makes you happy?”
And, for the ladies out there who are reading this, and you missed the article in the Telegram this week, here it is
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